Ms Mona Wolf Interview

Ms Mona Wolf Interview

In our latest Dominatrix Interview, we talked with Ms Mona Wolf of Dallas, Texas to discuss how She became a Professional Dominatrix and Her thoughts on BDSM.

Q) How did you get your started in BDSM?
A) Living in Hawai’i left me with very few options when finally discovering the universe of BDSM, but I was determined to dive in headfirst. Like most things I’m passionate about, I strive to understand the topic in question from a holistic point of view: the good, the bad, the ugly, and the phenomenal. BDSM to me quickly became an outlet that I had so desperately needed; I could even go as far as to say that it saved my life. Not only is it a sexual outlet in my personal life, but I’ve also found that the skills developed from understanding all the facets of this culture have applied–some knowingly, some unknowingly–to a number of areas in my life: professionally, personally, educationally, and so on.

I was taken under the wing of my longtime friend, and Shibari coach, who enthusiastically showed me the ropes ;D (I had to). So, Shibari was my first exposure to the culture, and it goes without saying, I have been a ropebunny since. Only about a year ago did I finally decide to practice rope as a top; albeit, I only do floor rope and am very adamant about refining my skills for a few years before I take to suspension.

I went through the infamous “sub frenzy” and put myself in quite a few precarious situations for the first few months; I developed a taste for blood chokes, impact, fear play, primal energy, sensory deprivation (or just deprivation as a whole), unadulterated obedience, and of course, the psychology behind all of these. My tastes have expanded since and I am currently interested in learning more about needles, sounding, whips, cutting, leather, pressure points, and fire play; endless possibilities within the realms of this culture and I admire this lifestyle more and more as time goes by.

Q) How long have you been a Pro-Domme?
A) I am “new”, and I’m not sure what makes a Pro-Domme seasoned, but I have heard a few courses of action that I am eagerly awaiting to attend once COVID allows. That being said, I’ve practiced long enough to know (1) there is always an emergency exit plan, (2) you are encouraged to use safewords and I will actively check-in, but not in the manner that disrupts your headspace, (3) both of our limits will be respected and heard before agreeing to a scene which includes a thick stack of paperwork that is filled out, (4) post-scene reflection papers are a must because bottoms who lean sub sometimes have a hard time articulating thoughts and feelings verbally and it is critical for me to know everything that went on in that little head of yours, (5) your feedback and suggestions are important to me, if there is something I need to improve on or watch out for, I want to know; doesn’t matter if it’s in the middle of a scene, before, or after, you have my full attention, and finally, (5) your aftercare routine is critical and check-ins are in order after any type of scene.

All in all, it doesn’t really matter “how long” you’ve been doing something; what does matter are the steps you take in order to scene ethically, cultivate a safe environment, and have mind-blowing fun, all while practicing very unsafe techniques. I am an advocate for Personal Responsibility, Informed Consensual Kink (PRICK), Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK), and Consensual Risk Aware Shit Happens (CRASH); all of these play an important role in my domination practice, allowing for a smooth scene with lots and lots of spacey head-time.

Q) What do you offer? What’s your “speciality”?
A) To put it quite bluntly, I offer an experience; I do not take “requests”, but requests will be taken into consideration depending on my mood and my level of connection with you. However, I do specialize in a few things which I believe helps me to stand out amongst the sea of Dommes out there. Looking back at what originally drew me into BDSM culture, I find the desire to offer these experiences to bottoms as well; this includes floor rope and partials, deprivation and sensation play, fear play combined with sensualism, rough body play, mind-fucks, breath play, humiliation and degradation, well-earned service, chastity, aftercare, and of course, I’m always getting creative with household items.

It is important to note that scenes will not typically fall into a heavy space without rapport; this is so that the trust has been built and I am aware of your ticks and reactions so that I know how to take you on the wave of subspace.

Q) Where do the sessions happen?
A) Unfortunately, I do not have a dungeon; one day, though. Currently, sessions are more like “stay-cations”, in that we meet at a hotel so to ensure a neutral space is chosen in order to facilitate the most comfort for both of us.

Q) Why do you think people are drawn to BDSM?
A) Oh god, this question has so many answers; all of them are right, but at the same time, wrong in so many ways. I think the best way to answer this question is that people are inherently sexual beings, but our culture doesn’t necessarily allow for the freedom to express ourselves as kinksters in our daily lives. Like I said earlier, BDSM is a way for me to express myself sexually, but it also allows for me to express a very primal side of myself; a little side; a dominant and sadistic side; a creative and innovative side; and a very scary side that, without the constraints of BDSM, could possibly be dangerous.

I believe that we all have sides of ourselves we wish we could explore in safe and accepting environments and, as a psychology major, I’ve found that we experience a sense of community when we find others who wish to explore the same; and community, my dear friend, allows for a foundation for us to thrive in all the best possible ways. We all wish to take a break from the world sometimes and BDSM gives us the opportunity to embrace this third dimension of ourselves, allowing for an infinite amount of possibilities to do so.

Q) What type of subs/slaves do you like?
A) Ha! This is easy; I’ll keep it short: be respectful; be generous with you mind, your body, and your spirit; be (respectfully) outspoken; be confident in what you desire from me; be on time; and do everything within your power to make sure that you are taking care of yourself, as well as me. 

Q) What are some of the biggest misconceptions about your work?
A) Most people view your typical dominatrix as a tall, blonde, skinny, female covered in latex from head to toe, maybe even holding a whip. This is most definitely not true. The easiest way to clear this up is by imagining everyone in your local grocery store as a Pro-Domme; we are (but not limited to) cashiers, accountants, chiropractors, waitresses, psychologists, doctors, and college students; human, just like everybody else on this planet. Even though I prefer to inflict pain and incite fear, not all dommes do this; we are multi-faceted and are a smorgasbord of vast experiences; we come from different cultures, families, and economies, but we all love the same thing: experiencing a side of ourselves that is unfiltered, empowering, enchanting. 

Q) How can potential subs/slaves get in touch with you?
A) If you want to know more about me, my presence on the web reaches far. Find my website at Wolf Domination; my twitter account at Femdommona; I have an OnlyFans for voyeurs; you can even check out my podcast at The PsycHoe. On my website, you will find a contact form, this is where you will reach out for inquires, and there is a PDF embedded in the website which outlines all the steps that are necessary in order to solidify a date with me.

I encourage newcomers to explore, I challenge seasoned and professional bottoms/subs, and I cherish each and every one of them the same. Thank you for reading my humble outlook on this world, and I hope to hear from you.

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